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August 27, 2009

About Cruising []

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The Rainbow Project does not recommend cruising or cottaging due some elements of it which are illegal, and due to the dangers associated with attacks and unsafe sex. However if you decide to go for it keep these following tips in mind to ensure a safe and pleasant experience:

  • Bring plenty of condoms and lube and insist on safer sex; respect yourself and your health!
  • Be discreet when having sex. The more discreet you are the less chance there is of police activity or gay bashers.
  • Only go cruising when you are not too drunk or on drugs. You will need to be on your guard at all times
  • Leave your wallet and ID at home. Some attacks involve robbery and you do not want your identity to become known to your attacker.
  • Wear clothes and shoes you can run in and do not wear headphones.
  • Before you start checking out the men, check out the surroundings for exists and escape routes
  • Be aware that some gay basher might pretend to be gay. Trust your instincts!
  • Take any used condoms, wrappers etc. home with you. This kind of litter will draw complaints and police attention.


Being at a cruising or cottaging area is not illegal, but having exposing yourself or having sex in public where someone could see you is without doing something unusual like looking peeking underneath a cubicle door or taking out the binoculars.

If you get arrested, stay calm, co-operate but only give your name and ask for a solicitor. The solicitor will advise you on your rights and what to say and is bound by client confidentiality.

If you get attacked remember that this is a crime, whether or not you were involved in something illegal. Report the attack to the local police station and ask to speak to the Minority Liaison Officer. Someone from The Rainbow Project can escort you if you prefer someone else there. If you are not sure about reporting the attack, come and speak to someone in Rainbow first to consider your options.


When you are mentally healthy you feel good about yourself, enjoy relationships, learn confidently and overcome your difficulties. When you aren’t, you may feel overwhelmed by misery, anger or fear.

  • You do not know who you are talking to; in a chat room anyone can pretend to be anyone and any age.
  • Do not give out your home address or landline number or any other details until you have met the person and trust them.
  • When you arrange to meet up let someone know where you are going to be and arrange for them to contact you during the meeting and let the person you are meeting know you have made these arrangements.
  • Do not get too drunk; you need to stay on your guard and your performance now or later might not make the best impression.
  • You are under no obligation to have sex with the person you are meeting up with. If you decide to go ahead insist on safe sex and bring condoms and lube.
  • No chat room company will allow their staff to contact customers. If you are being blackmailed contact the Minority Liaison Officer at your local PSNI office.


For the safest form of cruising visit a gay sauna. After paying an entrance fee you will be in a safe and clean environment with like-minded people and condoms and lube freely available and it is legal! Going to a gay sauna does not mean you have to have sex; some men go just for the company or just to relax and be themselves. Most saunas provide a service where you can make an appointment with a member of staff to show you around the facilities first if you are nervous about going.


August 24, 2009

Gay singer George Michael on BBC 24 News

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gay singer george michael intends to sue the people who are behind his sex scandal allegations; he was spotted – and photographed – in the notorious gay cruising area of hampstead heath

August 18, 2009

US columnist suggests using attack dogs to stop gay cruising

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By Staff Writer, • August 12, 2009

parkCREDflickrusermeredithA newspaper columnist in Georgia has suggested using attack dogs to prevent men meeting for sex in public spaces.

Dick Yarbrough, a conservative columnist in the Marietta Daily Journal, proposed a “doggone solution” to the “boy-boy problem” of public sex in two suburban parks.

He wrote: “With a little instruction, dogs could be taught to severely dislike the gay lovers in Burruss and Wildwood and bite them in the fanny and do what City Council should have done years ago – chase them off to Atlanta where they belong.”

Yarbrough’s rancour also extended to smokers and mobile phone users, who he suggested could also come in for the dog solution.

“Assuming that works,” he added, “we will then tell the canines that cell phone users are really just possums with bad attitudes. The dogs will take it from there and then maybe the rest of us can have a little peace and quiet in Glover Park.”

August 14, 2009

Man found dead in South London gay cruising ground

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By Jessica Geen • March 5, 2009

policetapePolice have confirmed a man’s body was found yesterday in a Croydon park, South London. The area is well known as a gay cruising area.

It is believed the body is of Patrick Cloherty, 43, who has been reported missing.

Police went to the wooded area, known as Beulah Heights, to search for Mr Cloherty, who was last seen on February 24th.

The death is currently being treated as unexplained.

Mr Cloherty’s family have been informed, although formal identification has not yet taken place.

Officers from Bromley and Croydon Police are conducting further enquiries to ascertain the circumstances of the death.

The missing man’s work vehicle, a red Ford Transit, sign-written with “SEDDON” on the side, was located in Auckland Road, South Norwood.

Anyone who has seen Mr Cloherty should call Bromley Police Station 01689 891212, or Missing People on 0500 700 700.

Dutch park unveils signs to ‘warn visitors’ about gay cruising spots

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By Henrietta Ronson • April 29, 2009

parkCREDflickrusermeredithA park in the southwest of Amsterdam has put up signs indicating areas where gay men are allegedly known to have sex so no one will be caught unaware.

Manon Koffiijberg, a municipal spokeswoman, told Agence France-Presse: “There are various groups of users of the park; people with small children who bathe on the beaches, those who walk their dogs, gays cruising and nature lovers.

“Things are arranged so that each group can relax in their own area without intruding on each other.”

“The signs clearly indicate what is happening in each zone; also those where gay men are known to practice ‘cruising’.”

“If you don’t want to be confronted by a vision of that sort, the signs allow you to avoid specific areas,” said Ms Koffijberg.

The De Oeverlanden park in Slotervaart, is known as a popular spot for gay men from all over the Netherlands and elsewhere in Europe to find sex partners.

Ms Koffijberg maintains that though public sex is indeed illegal, the park had turned a blind eye for so long that it has become “gedoog”.

Gedoog is a Dutch word for tolerating unwanted behaviour.

Cruisers tend to keep their sexual activities to the confines of the bushes in the park and the new signs have been erected to ensure that unwitting visitors do not accidently stray into the areas.

Recently there have been reports of gay bashing in the Slotervaart area, which is populated by a large group of Muslim immigrants. Reports of robberies and violence against gay men in De Oeverlanden park are rife.

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